• slaacaa@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    be me, shy 22 yrs old femanon

    just trying to enjoy a quiet tram ride

    notice dude in anime shirt staring at me

    low-key freak out

    remember reading about these situations online

    decide to make a move

    slide over to the cute guy in the next row

    “Hey, can you pretend to be my boyfriend? A creepy dude is watching me.”

    cute guy laughs and agrees

    we start chatting and laughing

    actually hitting it off

    take a selfie to see if creeper is still watching

    creeper finally gets lost in his phone and stops staring

    start to genuinely enjoy the ride with this guy

    tram stops and we exchange numbers before I jump off

    been texting ever since, will meet again next weekend

    thank you creepy dude, for playing cupid in my tram romance

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    Fairness is about being treated fair and having the same opportunities as others. It’s natural to feel sad or envious at the joy of others. That’s life. Is being rewarded for nothing fair too? Putting in literally no effort into being the person others want to spend time with is why no one wants to spend time with you. They put in effort, they try to be the kind of person their partner wants them to be, and their partner loves them for trying. It’s the effort we put into the actions that gives them meaning, that says “I care”.

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      Fairness is about being treated fair and having the same opportunities as others. It’s natural to feel sad or envious at the joy of others. That’s life.

      Life is unfair in the sense that people’s opportunities, abilities and experiences vary extremely wildly.

      That is not fairness. It is un fairness.

      Is being rewarded for nothing fair too?

      You mean this in the sense that this person has not tried to cultivate a relationship, but it simultaneously can be read to mean being born into wealth, born into a stable household that fosters strong mental health and sense of self, born into a safe and nurturing environment.

      Lots and lots of people do not have these things have have to work themselves raw, physically and mentally, to the point they do not have the time or energy to pursue a healthy relationship, not that they even know what one looks like.

      You phrase all of this as if the other person just isnt trying hard enough, is not putting in enough effort, when you have no idea how much effort the poster or the happy couple put into anything.

    • This is fine🔥🐶☕🔥@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      They put in effort, they try to be the kind of person their partner wants them to be, and their partner loves them for trying.

      You say this but plenty of shitbags are in relationship just because they look hot.

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        Plenty of shitbags in relationships who aren’t hot as well. People don’t like being lonely and relationships are often sold to us as fixing that loneliness, even when the opposite might be closer to the truth when you’re talking about a bad relationship.

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    It’s funny to see these little puddles of unreality in settings like that though. We were at a concert once at a small venue and there was one small group of people who looked just like a liquor advertisement, sparkly dresses, throwing their heads back laughing and dancing, it looked nothing like what was going on around them. They didn’t seem to pay attention to the band except as a soundtrack for their sparkling little party. It looked unreal. I’ve never seen anything like it before or since.

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    3 months ago

    It takes a lot of arguments about ridiculously petty things like not hanging towels up to dry properly, but it hurts too much and you have to apologise to each other, until eventually you achieve full co-dependence.

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      If you’re arguing about towels you wont be the couple from this greentext.

      Id say those were not real early in love or really forgiving for each other.