• Donkter@lemmy.world
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    I’ll first say that from a social standpoint it makes sense to focus on yourself when asked that. But the person asked “tell me what you look for in a girl”. You would have to be pretty damn masterful at thinking on your feet to take that question and immediately flip your answers into I statements. Especially if you’re anon and obviously don’t get asked things like this a lot.

    No kids is a common wish although the reason for it can make or break how fine it is to have.

    My guess is that anon is overweight, and the person they were talking to was thinking of friends they had that were overweight and were great people.

    Anon betrayed that their preference was a bit delusional and/or didn’t understand that it can take work to be in shape and takes it for granted that women should be expected to be fit for him without him having to do anything. That’s a pretty sour fart of an opinion.

    The no dating apps thing is pretty cringe. And could certainly make you seem like a pariah to most people. It definitely betrays a sense of superiority if it’s in your top 3 dating requirements. I feel like anon knowing the word demisexual is slim to none but that would be the best thing you could say.

    Actually my guess is that this is fake and anon is just stirring the hate mongering pot.

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      1 month ago

      I also casually declare strangers I meet at a bar for 20 minutes to be great catches and offer up any of my single friends phone numbers. Dont you?

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        1 month ago

        friend’s gf

        few hours

        I agree that it’s likely made up, and that the guy likely has a lot of misogynistic views, but you at least don’t need to misrepresent the post.

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          Thats fair, I was trying to highlight how they just met. Two hours is more time but still, would be strange to try and hook them up with someone.

          I also think its odd from his perspective. He just met her, they are drinking, she barely knows him, and yet has a bunch of single friends who are perfect for him.

          If I were him I would change the topic immediately. But then again I wouldnt go to a bar for romance in the first place.

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          Knowing someone for a few hours at a bar in public does not mean you know their type, or even understand who they are on any meaningful level.

          Bar style dating where you pick a stranger to attempt to bring home is absurd to begin with though, in my opinion.