So… more deceit? I’ve had uhmmm enough contact with all sexes in my time, and found “a relationship is a means to an end” type behavior in too many of my fellow humans. Also when they will not stop sliding into shittier and shittier behavior it usually means they were shitty from the start, but their mask is slipping.
Still amazes me, the many, many people seeing felationships as purely transactional.
Not always deceit. A lot of these guys don’t go into this with the intent to do this, it’s just sorta something that happens as they age, and get disaffected/dissatisfied with life in general, and their wife ends up bearing a lot of the bullshit from that. Not an excuse, it’s still them being fucking awful people, but they didn’t go into the relationship intending to be the husband who’s wife does literally everything, while they sit on their ass, and be distant.
There are absolutely pure personality disordered men out there that do, in fact, do this type of thing with intention.
I would call that a collapse of communication, but I understand what you mean. I agree that stopping to work on oneself and/or disassociating from your partner in a relationship is a huge betrayal and all around shitty behavior. Thanks for clarifying. I’m totally with you on that.
BTW I once woke someone up to their behavior during a screaming match where I shouted “Why are you like this, we a supposed to be on the same side! Both of us against the problem, not whatever you’re doing.” Well at least I think these were my words, there might have been a lot more swear words … But that was successful only one time, so …
So… more deceit? I’ve had uhmmm enough contact with all sexes in my time, and found “a relationship is a means to an end” type behavior in too many of my fellow humans. Also when they will not stop sliding into shittier and shittier behavior it usually means they were shitty from the start, but their mask is slipping.
Still amazes me, the many, many people seeing felationships as purely transactional.
Edit: lol, the typo stays.
Not always deceit. A lot of these guys don’t go into this with the intent to do this, it’s just sorta something that happens as they age, and get disaffected/dissatisfied with life in general, and their wife ends up bearing a lot of the bullshit from that. Not an excuse, it’s still them being fucking awful people, but they didn’t go into the relationship intending to be the husband who’s wife does literally everything, while they sit on their ass, and be distant.
There are absolutely pure personality disordered men out there that do, in fact, do this type of thing with intention.
I would call that a collapse of communication, but I understand what you mean. I agree that stopping to work on oneself and/or disassociating from your partner in a relationship is a huge betrayal and all around shitty behavior. Thanks for clarifying. I’m totally with you on that.
BTW I once woke someone up to their behavior during a screaming match where I shouted “Why are you like this, we a supposed to be on the same side! Both of us against the problem, not whatever you’re doing.” Well at least I think these were my words, there might have been a lot more swear words … But that was successful only one time, so …