Is this anyone else’s experience? I don’t fit neatly in any box, I have friends in all of them. I have friends in traditional marriages with the woman as the homemaker, I have all sorts of queer friends. I have friends that think videogames are edgy, others playing D&D every second day, others in sword battle reenactment, others in crochet. Never struggled relating to them or them to me. I moved around a lot, still found “my people” in no time. We are all multifaceted people with a variety of interests and thoughts.
The part where he talks about video games definitely feels like my experience, at least when it comes to meeting people outside of the context of a specific game and its community.
When I’ve gotten into convos in these situations, usually it’ll be evident they mostly only play some set of the following games:
Overwatch
Rainbow Six
Genshin Impact
Stardew Valley
Helldivers 2
Last of us
God of War
GTA
Red Dead 2
That’s not a complete list, but for the most part it will be a bunch of games like that with a sizeable, committed, “normie” following that I don’t play. I can’t bond with these people over games even though on a surface level we’re both “gamers”, because the only game we’ll have in common is Minecraft.
I think the gap here is that for someone like me or anon, we have interests and want to find people who are also interested in that thing, but from the sounds of your post you’re finding people and getting your interests from them. In the latter case, of course there’s no trouble connecting with people, because you’re more willing to mold yourself to do so.
Is this anyone else’s experience? I don’t fit neatly in any box, I have friends in all of them. I have friends in traditional marriages with the woman as the homemaker, I have all sorts of queer friends. I have friends that think videogames are edgy, others playing D&D every second day, others in sword battle reenactment, others in crochet. Never struggled relating to them or them to me. I moved around a lot, still found “my people” in no time. We are all multifaceted people with a variety of interests and thoughts.
The part where he talks about video games definitely feels like my experience, at least when it comes to meeting people outside of the context of a specific game and its community.
When I’ve gotten into convos in these situations, usually it’ll be evident they mostly only play some set of the following games:
That’s not a complete list, but for the most part it will be a bunch of games like that with a sizeable, committed, “normie” following that I don’t play. I can’t bond with these people over games even though on a surface level we’re both “gamers”, because the only game we’ll have in common is Minecraft.
I think the gap here is that for someone like me or anon, we have interests and want to find people who are also interested in that thing, but from the sounds of your post you’re finding people and getting your interests from them. In the latter case, of course there’s no trouble connecting with people, because you’re more willing to mold yourself to do so.
Count your blessings
I definetly don’t fit in but also have friends and a partner i live with (of 10 yrs)
I mostly LARP at it though because I don’t fit in. Am 58, m and don’t want to fit in :)