I heard of a challenge where you do things you expect to get rejected. eg ask for the senior discount at a restaurant when you’re clearly not a senior. Maybe the kid from the bus was doing just that, not expecting anon to actually give them his burger.
As long as people aren’t being a jerk about it, I see no harm in that.
A similar question happened to me, where a man asked me if he can have a 20oz cup but fill it with soup. And not really gaf about my min-wage job, said sure, thanks for asking!
Then for like a month, I was politely ask if there’s any discounts, or if I can have like 50 packs of mustard. And sometimes I did accidentally upset a worker and I’d have to explain that I was really expecting a NO and seeing where it would go.
It helped me also become better at receiving rejection, which is a useful skill.
There are two separate cultures around asking for favors like this.
In one, a person can ask for anything without being considered rude, but they are expected to not react negatively to being told ‘no’.
In the other, it is expected that you only ask for something if you’re sure the answer will be yes. Asking for something to which you expect a rejection is rude in this culture. Also people tend to react negatively to being told ‘no’, as they were fully expecting a ‘yes’.
I grew up in the latter system, as it is what most of the western world uses. It requires far more social aptitude and ability to pick up on queues. It causes a ton of problems (especially with dating) and is a nightmare for anyone on the autism spectrum.
This is a long way of saying: be careful of who you ask for random favors from. In a customer role it’s fine, but it may not go well with friends/family.
I heard of a challenge where you do things you expect to get rejected. eg ask for the senior discount at a restaurant when you’re clearly not a senior. Maybe the kid from the bus was doing just that, not expecting anon to actually give them his burger.
As long as people aren’t being a jerk about it, I see no harm in that.
A similar question happened to me, where a man asked me if he can have a 20oz cup but fill it with soup. And not really gaf about my min-wage job, said sure, thanks for asking!
Then for like a month, I was politely ask if there’s any discounts, or if I can have like 50 packs of mustard. And sometimes I did accidentally upset a worker and I’d have to explain that I was really expecting a NO and seeing where it would go.
It helped me also become better at receiving rejection, which is a useful skill.
There are two separate cultures around asking for favors like this.
In one, a person can ask for anything without being considered rude, but they are expected to not react negatively to being told ‘no’.
In the other, it is expected that you only ask for something if you’re sure the answer will be yes. Asking for something to which you expect a rejection is rude in this culture. Also people tend to react negatively to being told ‘no’, as they were fully expecting a ‘yes’.
I grew up in the latter system, as it is what most of the western world uses. It requires far more social aptitude and ability to pick up on queues. It causes a ton of problems (especially with dating) and is a nightmare for anyone on the autism spectrum.
This is a long way of saying: be careful of who you ask for random favors from. In a customer role it’s fine, but it may not go well with friends/family.