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Cake day: November 13th, 2023

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  • As far as labors of love go, Stardew Valley is probably the most current example. People paid for this thing years ago, but Concerned Ape keeps adding new features anyway. The retro graphics give this thing a timeless quality out of the box, so it already looks “dated” - this hasn’t stopped the robust player community around it. We’ll probably see this game stay relevant for a long time.




  • Renfield.

    I know it’s violent, campy, and corny, but it’s a damn good lesson in what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is and what it does to people. It helped me frame my own abuse and trauma at the hands of abuser’s NPD, in ways that helped me break free from those people later on. Moreover, once you’ve been victimized this way, one has a tendency to fall back into bad habits with abusers. The film just gave me something profound to recall when exercising mindfulness around this cycle, and how to exit quickly.






  • Workers risk a few things, depending on the job:

    • Health
    • Time
    • Opportunity (could be working someplace else that’s better)

    These have a lot of dimension to them, including how one quantifies what “pay” actually is/for, what legal restrictions there are around taking the job (e.g. non-compete, non-arbitration), work/life balance, and so on.

    Risk comes into play where the employee takes a bet that the job won’t destroy their health, work only as much as is absolutely necessary, and have taken a position at the optimal balance of responsibility, personal growth, retirement prospects, and income. It’s a risk since there are substantial barriers to changing to a new job, so you can wind up “stuck” in a bad position, but can’t know until after you start.








  • it’s like an engine being allowed to slow down after over-revving it incessantly.

    That’s exactly what it feels like. I installed Social Fixer on my browser(s) to make FB at least usable for the few times I have to touch it for event coordination. People ask me what that’s like and I simply say: “Oh, it’s boring now. I only look at status updates for a few minutes and go do something else.” The pull to go back is just… gone. It’s as dull as LiveJournal ever was, and frankly, it’s better this way.

    What did I strip out of the feed? Everything that wasn’t generated directly by someone on my friends list. That’s all it took. All the “engagement” is either artificially injected into your feed, or clickbait people pass along because their feed isn’t filtered.



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    health is under 10%

    Consider something like Elden Ring, where level-scaled bosses can basically end you in 1-3 hits. 9% or less means you have to be able to endure something like 10 attacks, prior to this kicking in. IMO, that means your foe is probably not at your level in the first place.

    Then again, is anyone playing with a “blood knight” style build in games like this? Like, deliberately running around with 5% health, or just burning HP to get stat boosts? Just curious - that’s not my style at all.


  • TL;DR: Show me someone with any hard-to-quit habit, and I’ll show you someone that’s self-medicating for something.

    This is tragically under-appreciated in our society. Especially when it seems everyone is converging on some kind of self-diagnosis, and collectively coming to a “hey nobody’s normal” conclusion. We’re so very close to framing help as “harm reduction for nicotine” and “maybe it’s also neurodiversity and/or trauma”, but we keep missing the mark and argue about vapes instead.

    Also, as the greentext suggests, I personally think we’re way past the point where people that can avoid starting or can quit easy, have already done so. What you see these days is a rather hard-core use cohort that has complex addiction to work through.

    So… yeah. Helping a friend quit? Please work with them to consider the jenga-tower of adverse psychology that a-pack-a-day might be holding up. It could be way harder to pull off than either of you think.