I have a rule that if my noise is a problem for someone they will surely come, knock on the door, let me know and I will stop it immediately.
It hasn’t happened yet so I assume no one is inconvenienced.
Actually I extend this to all areas of life. I believe that if something I do is a problem for someone, they will tell me. It’s much more sane than second guessing if my guitar session gets through the walls or not and checking the thickness in the architecture plan and calculating decibels.
It’s not my job to think constantly if my every minor single action can offend or inconvenience someone. Cmon that would be insane
If someone has a problem with my pyjama outdoors then they can tell me and I probably will consider it for a while like a second and then idk get a notification and forget probably if I am being honest. But I tried to take it into consideration your valuable opinion on my outfit. I really did try. It’s called living in a society, we need to care
I think you can find a middle ground between “I assume they’d come and politely discuss it” and “I think constantly whether my every single minor action can offend someone”.
I disagree. It’s the only sane way of thinking. You cannot be in the head of other people, cannot possibly know what they tolerate or not and then if they say they don’t like something you do you must decide if their intolerance is reasonable.
It’s something I live by. And strongly believe is the only way to properly savour the fruits of reality.
Take everything as it was yours too and if someone contests it then you can split the cake.
This is the secret to having truly good time in this waking world.
Most people are afraid to take things, to set boundaries, to be bold and they dwell and die in unhappiness having nothing. Don’t be like them. Fight for yourself.
Are you saying you perform zero mental calculus to determine these sorts of things? You do not consider laws, social norms, or even morals? Where do you draw the line? If there is a literal community fruit tree at a park near your house, would you take all the fruits until people ask you to leave some for them? If you are driving home and you see a house with a beautiful garden, would you stop and steal some of the plants because the resident should tell you not to? Would you practice your guitar at 3am with an amp because, who knows, maybe your neighbors actually enjoy it or maybe they sleep with earplugs and since you had a great musical idea at 3am, you should “be bold” and “take what’s yours” and they should tell you 3am is a stupid time to play guitar with an amp?
Did you also say you live in a homogeneous community of somewhat assholes and you think you’re being bold by also being an asshole?
You might want to talk to a therapist because that is not a “cultural” difference.
But if you don’t care that other people around you think you’re an asshole even if they’re not coming up to you and saying it, then there’s nothing anyone can say.
Haha I am so intimidating brr scary. In my country we haven’t reached such levels of madness yet and generally people are normal. The place in which you dread to interact with your fellow humans must be terrible indeed. But then I live in a slav hobbiton among religious peaceful hobbits. Racist and xenophobic hypocrites yes but never violent. Good people.
They may slander you when they think you don’t hear them but you can go on the night streets without worry. I kinda love them.
I live in a safe area (not in the US), I know most of my neighbours at least somewhat but I wouldn’t ever confront them directly because I don’t know who’s on the other side of the door and how they deal with confrontation. It only takes one asshole to put me in the hospital because I dared tell them they were being too loud, even if 99% of my neighbours are sweet and caring.
I have a rule that if my noise is a problem for someone they will surely come, knock on the door, let me know and I will stop it immediately.
It hasn’t happened yet so I assume no one is inconvenienced.
Actually I extend this to all areas of life. I believe that if something I do is a problem for someone, they will tell me. It’s much more sane than second guessing if my guitar session gets through the walls or not and checking the thickness in the architecture plan and calculating decibels.
So you’re an asshole that also likes attention and confrontation
You sound like a shit neighbor then. Just be considerate of others.
It’s not my job to think constantly if my every minor single action can offend or inconvenience someone. Cmon that would be insane
If someone has a problem with my pyjama outdoors then they can tell me and I probably will consider it for a while like a second and then idk get a notification and forget probably if I am being honest. But I tried to take it into consideration your valuable opinion on my outfit. I really did try. It’s called living in a society, we need to care
Honestly grow up
I think you can find a middle ground between “I assume they’d come and politely discuss it” and “I think constantly whether my every single minor action can offend someone”.
Your rule is based on ignorance then. Be kinder
I disagree. It’s the only sane way of thinking. You cannot be in the head of other people, cannot possibly know what they tolerate or not and then if they say they don’t like something you do you must decide if their intolerance is reasonable.
It’s something I live by. And strongly believe is the only way to properly savour the fruits of reality.
Take everything as it was yours too and if someone contests it then you can split the cake. This is the secret to having truly good time in this waking world.
Most people are afraid to take things, to set boundaries, to be bold and they dwell and die in unhappiness having nothing. Don’t be like them. Fight for yourself.
Being kind isn’t difficult, have a good day.
Are you saying you perform zero mental calculus to determine these sorts of things? You do not consider laws, social norms, or even morals? Where do you draw the line? If there is a literal community fruit tree at a park near your house, would you take all the fruits until people ask you to leave some for them? If you are driving home and you see a house with a beautiful garden, would you stop and steal some of the plants because the resident should tell you not to? Would you practice your guitar at 3am with an amp because, who knows, maybe your neighbors actually enjoy it or maybe they sleep with earplugs and since you had a great musical idea at 3am, you should “be bold” and “take what’s yours” and they should tell you 3am is a stupid time to play guitar with an amp?
Did you also say you live in a homogeneous community of somewhat assholes and you think you’re being bold by also being an asshole?
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You might want to talk to a therapist because that is not a “cultural” difference.
But if you don’t care that other people around you think you’re an asshole even if they’re not coming up to you and saying it, then there’s nothing anyone can say.
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Or maybe they just don’t want to take the risk? https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/apr/29/five-people-killed-in-south-east-texas-shooting-cleveland
Haha I am so intimidating brr scary. In my country we haven’t reached such levels of madness yet and generally people are normal. The place in which you dread to interact with your fellow humans must be terrible indeed. But then I live in a slav hobbiton among religious peaceful hobbits. Racist and xenophobic hypocrites yes but never violent. Good people.
They may slander you when they think you don’t hear them but you can go on the night streets without worry. I kinda love them.
I live in a safe area (not in the US), I know most of my neighbours at least somewhat but I wouldn’t ever confront them directly because I don’t know who’s on the other side of the door and how they deal with confrontation. It only takes one asshole to put me in the hospital because I dared tell them they were being too loud, even if 99% of my neighbours are sweet and caring.
I go through my life trying to be quiet so as not to disturb others.
This is a loser way, it puts you at a huge disadvantage. Go loud ablaze with guns smoking.
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