• OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml
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      2 months ago

      Jeez, girl is crying and having a hard time, someone makes a joke to cheer her up. You call that a dick move?

      • Anivia@feddit.org
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        There are ways to cheer someone up without bullying someone else

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            You cheer them up by telling them that at least they don’t have to deal with [insert bad present from an ex here] and she doesn’t have to buy any extra presents this year.

            If that doesn’t work, you base it off of their exes’ behavior: for example if they got sloppy drunk, you say that at least she doesn’t need to DD/babysit this year. If they were loud, you say that at least she’s not going to suffer permanent hearing damage.

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        I didnt think this needed to be said but making a joke at a bystanders expense, particularly a hurtful personal attack, is not ok.
        Sure jokes are give and take with some good natured ribbing but this strays more into carless, or potentially malicious territory.

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          Nah, it is good natured ribbing 100%. People who are alone for 28 years in a row either are completely inept at human interaction or don’t want a partner / aren’t ready for one. The first case is incredibly rare, in the second case you probably are secure enough in it to laugh with them. And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.

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            Wow, you’re a twat.

            “make her feel better for 5 minutes by making him feel worse for… however long that scar lasts, oh, and you can’t find a relationship because you suck” has got to be the shittest take I’ve heard all day

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            I don’t know how many 28+ year old virgins you’ve met, but I know like 5-6, none of whom are completely socially inept(I have really nerdy hobbies? I don’t know why I know so many), and only one would be at all cool with another person making a joke about it, but still probably not a random aunt.

            The one other exception I can think of is the religiously celibate, who might be a-okay with it from their aunt to cheer up a cousin, but I’m sure not doing it.

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            Lmao what

            If you don’t want one and people make fun of you for that that is still shitty. Also it’s entirely possible to want one but just not enough to go actively looking. The only person that would be allowed to make that joke without being very certain he doesn’t mind would be anon himself. Society’s ultra focus on relationships and sex can feel bad enough without your fucking family making fun of you.

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            And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.

            For half a second? Because surely that joke didn’t cure her sadness.

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        I don’t understand why everyone calls me a monster. I just kicked those puppies to cheer a crying girl up.