While not the stereotypical extrovert, I experience the opposite in my country.
I think, on a world wide scale, I would be considered very introverted, but by Danish standards I’m too social. I’ve become more introverted over time because it is too exhausting trying to get something going with people around me. Danes make all their friends in their youth and then they close the gates at 30 and never allow in any other new friendships or acquaintances ever again. And if they do, it’s against their will.
We moved into a new neighborhood five months ago, and I still don’t know anyone. Our closest neighbors have politely demonstrated that they desire to not know me despite my attempts at getting to know them and I am self aware enough to know when to just let it go and avoid thing becoming uncomfortable.
It really sucks, because I always dreamed of having good relationships with my neighbors and inviting people over for cook outs or something. But Danes are hermit crabs.
I had it confirmed when I befriended a Ukrainian refugee who told me that in the two years he had been a refugee in Denmark, I had literally been the only Dane to bother to get to know him and been friendly and open to him. Told him that I’m also a very shitty Dane.
So yeah, I dunno what it’s like to be an introvert stuck in an extrovert society. But I do know what it’s like to be extroverted introvert in a hyper introverted society and that sucks as well, because you end up becoming very, very lonely if you don’t hit the jackpot with evergreen friendships when you still have your milk teeth.
Latin American introvert here, I can’t begin to tell you how much my life changed for the better when I realized I just hate people and have no real reason to pursue extrovert goals. Also people like you more when you’re not trying.
Relatable, I grew up in Turkey while not nationalist. (By anatolian standards, at least)
Plot twist: anon is actually 1% Latino 90% Greek and 9% German and doesn’t like spicy food.
Colombian food isn’t spicy. Spice is high in like Mexico and Central America but that’s not universal across Latin cuisines ex. I know an Ecuadorian who can’t even take a sprinkle of black pepper without having to fan their mouth. Will happily eat vigorously salted green grapes, green apples or green mangos without batting an eye though.
can we swap? i’d like to go there instead, people here are all “oh that’s sexual harassment” if you look at them a second too long.
why are you looking at people so much to the point the feel you are harassing them?
dunno, here in north american culture, staring is considered rude/weird af.
That was me, then I moved to Australia where I’m considered a blabber mouth extroverted.
Australia is reserved? Dude, I work with a whole slew of them, and reserved is maaaybe the case at work. Anytime I catch them they’re wild.
I’ve travelled to a few countries in Europe. Spain may not be Latin America, but it definitely seemed to have a noticeably more extroverted culture than the other countries I visited: multiple strangers started talking to me on the streets and in grocery stores and such, even though my Spanish is terrible, and I remember even the bus drivers being particularly friendly.
regions of the USA also are vastly different in this way. i’m from the northeast and its’ offensive to randomly talk to people, but in the south or west it’s considered offensive not to. the only people who will randomly talk to you are either mentally ill, or sales people.
i lived on the west coast for a couple of years and it was so fucking weird there.
Visited the American Northeast as a Swedish person. Dude at Chic-fil-A asked me how my day was. I’m like “whaaaat?” Great sandwich though but I still think about that young man’s pep.
Finns are like „hold my beer”: Neighbours stand at the same bus stop for years on the way to work without exchanging a single word.
I remember also being in Tromsø and getting a little book about the do’s and don’ts in Norway. One piece of advice in it stuck with me: only speak when you actually have something worth saying.
Love the North and the Nordics.
he was probably a tourist.
I felt this way in my own home culture as well. I grew up in a red bubble in a blue state in the US, where the underlying currents were no more than “conformity and hometown pride.” Oddly, the only things to be “proud” of were conformity itself and high school football (the pride-surrogate of adults with nothing better to celebrate.) It was all so hollow, and when 9/11 happened it all turned up to… well, 11. Being 12 and saying, “I don’t think this war makes sense” was enough to ostracize one’s self and be bombarded with the brain-dead argument of, “iF yOu hAtE AMURICA tHeN yOu cAn JuSt LEAVE!” Yeah okay, parrot. It was always obvious the kids just absorbed whatever mindless take their parents said (which was, itself, picked up from other people or Fox News.)
Man, thinking of my hometown always brings out a rant… Anyway, I grew up always feeling like a stranger in my own home, bullied and cast aside for not being like the rest. Thank goodness I was able to GTFO and meet people who use their brains as more than a copy/paste bin for other people’s thoughts.
I appreciate anti-fascist a lot but anti-fascists despite also getting opposed for it I appreciate even more.
lol. same upbringing. nobody understands how common this is in most of small town america. probably because they only ‘small towns’ they are familiar with are all the tourist spots, which are not really small town at all because they are full of city people.
i went from being suicidal everyday to actually being happy and feeling good… because i got out. I was in tears i was so happy my first week in college, of being free from all that horrible ignorant bullshit. people really do not get how utterly provincial these places are.
god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge. it was all just deadbeat losers whose biggest goal and achievement in was going to a pro sports game and being bitter about life that other people actually did something with theirs.
sadly a lot of my friends dropped out of college because it was ‘too hard’ to think for themselves and they ended up moving home, getting shitty local jobs usually working for their dad, and just popping out 2-3 kids by 24 and just repeating the cycle.
god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge
lol i know that feeling. that’s why i studied so much, to bring the knowledge into the world.
I grew up in the US from the age of five and the level of culture shock that hit me in kindergarten when no one knew who the fuck Manchester United was and that’s not a real jersey etc etc etc. it had Best on the back and everyone thought it meant i thought I was the best and I still remember that feeling today.
newsflash: if youre online youre an introvert. no exceptions
I always wondered how it is to be an introvert in such “loud” cultures. Now my guess is confirmed.
I live in the states and I’d like to swap with this guy for a trial period. I’ll try partying and busting for a month while he kicks it in the no-fun techno-fascist country where the rent is $1200/month+ and having a good looking ass is considered an actual commodity that must hit the market ASAP and the head of state is a senile pedo.
I wonder if this kid has ever considered getting a fucking grip.
On the other hand, growing up in this kind of culture, I’ve now been forged into the rare introvert who can dance, sing, and has amazing people skills when needed.
It’s draining, but useful.
Move to England, we will still think you are an extrovert
In Finland you’ll be treated for mania
Op would love Finland. Only ever talked to one stranger (who is now my wife) and the only thing we shake is the umbrella. And booze, well you will need it too.
introverted and alcoholic? Please tell me more about this wonderful place called Finland
Their mountains so lofty
Their treetops so tall
Eating breakfast or dinner
Or snack lunch in the hall.
Nah they don’t have any mountains in Finland. The trees are great though.
Only ever talked to one stranger
Scandalous!
no. Scandinavian
What is the umbrella reference about?
Umbrella gets wet. Ya shake it. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Oh my god, I feel so dumb. I really thought you had just made a typo and said shake instead of share.
Sharing doesn’t sound possible, or at least would require an unwieldy parasol or something.
Is that a Finnish thing or just the first thing you thought to shake?
There is no innuendo if you are looking for an innuendo. He’s literally talking about shaking the rain off an umbrella. He’s happily married and neither his wife nor he like to dance so they don’t shake anything but their umbrella. Get it?
Finnish people do not shake hands.
What else do you shake on a fairly common basis, I suppose you also shake the bottle to get every last drop out. So it’s bottle or umbrella.
Polaroid picture
Hey ya
It’s referencing back to the original post about girls shaking their asses
When you go inside you shake the water out of the umbrella so it doesn’t drip inside your house. Yeah, that’s it, no reference or anything.
Yeah but like, is that somehow Finnish?
Yea finnished being in the rain
I think you’re confused why he brought up shaking anything at all, what you’re missing is that he brought up shaking an umbrella as a reply to the OP image that talks about shaking booty aka dancing.
The Finnish thing is that they don’t shake booty. The umbrella being the only thing they shake was just a way to highlight that they aren’t dancing like Colombians.
It’s worldwide. Everyone around the world who has used an umbrella has shaken rain off an umbrella. Are you an alien from another solar system?
Maybe from Saudi Arabia? No umbrella-shaking in Saudi Arabia.
go to google.
type in “rainy day in Saudi Arabia”
click on images
Oh god. Very close to me. Exactly why I left and refuse to date latinas and for the most part make friends with latinos.
A bit over the top tho. You can definetly be a ladies man even if you don’t dance. Not easy as if you dance, but totally doable.
Now to the serious thing:
Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn’t like booty.
Before you downvote me, I am Colombian and don’t really dance to anything remotely latinFake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn’t like booty.
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